Abuse in the family

Abuse in the family

Family violence is any violent or threatening behaviour by a family member toward another family member, that is part of a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour, or that causes the other family member to fear for their own safety or for the safety of someone else. In the case of children, this includes direct and indirect exposure to that conduct.

The violence might be meant to make a person feel:

  • scared
  • intimidated
  • humiliated
  • powerless

Family violence can be a one-time use of force, but it can often occur in a pattern. Several acts of violence that sound minor by themselves could be a pattern of abuse.

What to do if you or a family member are being abused

If your spouse or partner or a family member is committing violent or threatening behaviour towards you or another family member, including a child you should:

  • call police/emergency and tell them what is happening. Even if you are unable to speak, do not disconnect the call
  • make noise to encourage neighbours to call the police
  • teach your children to call the police
  • try to leave and if you have children, take them with you
  • If you suspect that a child is being abused or needs protection, besides calling the police you have a duty to report your concerns to your child protection agency.

Make a safety plan

Create a safety plan for you and your children. To find support services in your community who can help you create a safety plan, visit the following websites:…(please include local links)

Things to do when preparing to leave:

  • save as much money as you can
  • set aside money for a taxi and money for pay-as-you-go cell phones
  • if you have no money and no place to stay, you may be able to get some support, subsidized housing, legal aid and free counselling
  • plan your emergency exits
  • always keep emergency phone numbers with you

If you must leave in a hurry, try to take:

  • car keys and house keys
  • identification and other important documents
  • prescriptions and other medicines
  • banking information
  • emergency suitcase, already packed
  • special toys and comforts for your children
  • contact your child’s school to update them on their ability to attend school, or on any other pertinent information that could be shared

If you are looking for information about services for women who have experienced violence, visit … (please provide local links).

Who to contact for help

  • Police
  • Community agencies and organisations
  • Legal Support
  • Victim Support Line